See NLP 101 for some basics into the school of thought
The Shadow and the Rising Sun (primary purpose: seduction)
You know, I was thinking about something the other day…about
…about the whole concept of the Yin and Yang…about hot and
white…light and darkness. And how opposites are really the same
thing…just varying degrees on the same spectrum…of
how one is defined in relation to the other…and how there are no
And then I remembered something that a Psychology student that I know once said.
…He said, “I have to go feed my shadow”…and I wasn’t quite
sure what he meant at the time. A while later I found out that it was a reference to Jung.
We are born completely whole and it isn’t until we learn what our
current culture tells us what is good and what is bad that we start to both
repress and express these parts of ourselves.
He said that everyone has a Shadow…a hidden side…a place of
forbidden desire. This is that part of you that you hide from the outside
world…maybe even from yourself… where you can experience and imagine these
thoughts… these thoughts that you don’t tell anyone about …where
you really want to experience all the excitement of this moment… to let
go of all the things that had been holding you back before… to just let
go…experience all that life offers you now. The Shadow is a good
thing he believed, because it brings a sense of balance.
Now, this sense of balance is very important because the concept that
whatever you repress grows and begins to spill over into other parts of
your life. If your shadow is repressed it grows and grows…until it just
takes you over completely. Jung said it was like the Rising Sun… because in
the morning, as the Sun rises in the sky…… it gets higher and higher…
closer and closer to the highest point in its path (midlife) …until
at mid-day it changes polarity completely… and everything that was once
true has now changed…and now the opposite is true… and the sun goes
This was the concept behind mid-life crisis.
So balance then is a good thing, and Jung believed that the first part
of our lives is about separation from the shadow, while the latter part of
our lives is about integration with the shadow and about being whole.
Now what if you were to see your shadow right in front of you, and talk
to it, what would it say?
Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now, and see the
world through the eyes of your shadow.. What would that say about the person
that you were before and what does this say about who you are now?
The Suicide Pattern – as used on a cheating spouse/lover
I don’t know what’s been going on inside your head lately, (Name). Perhaps you need to
do some introspection. Perhaps you need to look deep down inside yourself…explore the
very essence of who you are…and I don’t know if you’ll notice…just how empty you are,
deep inside yourself…so alone, so lonely. And when you explore that place, you only find
memories of your failures, frustrations and missed dreams. . . To the point where you
ask yourself…this is it? This is what I’ve been living for? What an empty life! These
things you do to me…your life in general…only amuse you, but they miserably fail to
address that deep longing inside you…that deep, painful emptiness. That’s why you need
to find someone to hurt. To go against.
Yeah (Name). Take your own life…and examine it. You might find yourself saying….This
is it? This is all I have lived for? And you walk through life light…because you are walking
empty. And likewise, realize just how empty and meaningless your actions have been…
Now, I think you should go deep inside yourself and examine your own motives and
realize that you are hurting yourself more than you are hurting me. It’s sad to see that
you enjoy hurting yourself in such manner since you obviously got a thrill by cheating on
me, but in reality, cheating yourself…out of a life….filled with joy and happiness.
The Paranoia Pattern
Did you ever WONDER what people do behind your back ? I mean, you never know what
people think of you, do you ? You can guess but they can hide it, by trying to shield you
from the painful truth or maybe just not wanting to reveal their intentions right now,
waiting for the right time to ATTACK YOU, DESTROY YOU(pause, wait for effect)
But maybe not, maybe everybody likes you and no one plans to hurt you. Maybe you’re
safe.(negation, meant to confuse)
And then again, maybe not. While you breathe, HERE, NOW, you REALIZE
the real truth. You can TRUST NO ONE, cause they WILL betray you. It’s just a matter of
time. You can TRUST NO ONE. Looking into the eyes of the people you know for a long
time, or have just met, you SEE THE REFLECTION of the sun in them and you
REALIZE, you CAN’T TRUST THEM, you can TRUST NO ONE. They WILL betray you.
It’s just a matter of time, remember?
(Once this has been elicited, it can easily be future paced.)
The Migraine Pattern:
“Hello (name)..this is (your name). I just want you to know that even though we had plans
and you didn’t show up….. there’s no hard feelings….firing at the ends of every
synapse…what would that feel it now…because it goes against my grain to suggest
anything that would be a huge pain in the neck…it’s the kind of thing that could cause a
person to throw up their hands in agony and just want to lie down and die and the
more you try to make it go away the more it keeps coming back stronger and stronger
than ever before